We are an Edinburgh based charity providing baby loss counselling and support to families, with over 40 years’ experience of offering compassionate bereavement care in the community.

Sands Lothians is now Held In Our Hearts

We are a local charity providing baby loss counselling and support to families. Formerly known as SANDS Lothians, we have 40 years’ experience of offering compassionate bereavement care in the community.


You may be reading this because your precious baby has died just hours ago, a few days ago or it may be months or even years. Whatever your circumstances, we are so sorry you find yourself here.  We want you to know that you are not alone.


When your baby dies, it is an incredibly traumatic and extremely lonely time as you may struggle to find others who understand the overwhelming emotions you experience. We can be there to hold your hand and walk with you on your journey, as you start to find a way to cope with your grief.


Our families are at the heart of everything that we do. All our bereavement support services are free and for as long as they are needed. We know that no one person’s grief is the same, so our support services are individualised for each family we support.

Professionals & Supporters

Your support and assistance with our work with the families is invaluable and we will support you as best we can.  This may be through training, information sharing, organising a joint visit to a family or perhaps you wish to fundraise for us.  We hope you find lots of information here but please contact us should you wish further support.

Held In Our Hearts has been our lifeline since our daughter was stillborn at 29 weeks last year.
The support they provide to bereaved families is immeasurable. Our very first phone call made such a huge impact on us, as well as receiving amazing practical advice about funeral arrangements, our emotions were suddenly validated – it was ok and normal for us to be feeling not only devastation and heartache but also huge amounts of love and pride for our beautiful little girl. Held In Our Hearts is so special, their support is family and person-centred and entirely tailored to each family’s individual needs, not only when newly bereaved but throughout our lives. As bereaved parents themselves, they are in a unique position to understand and empathise with those of us who access their services and know all too well there is no “right and wrong” when it comes to grief. It’s horrible that such a charity has to exist but thank goodness that it does!

Latest News

Volunteers needed for new research study on male grief x

We are looking for bereaved dads to join a research study –  A researcher from Bath Spa University, Karen Parris, […]

New project with Father’s Network Scotland for men’s mental health app

We are incredibly excited to announce that Held In Our Hearts will be partnering with Fathers Network Scotland to develop […]

Listen to our podcast about Subsequent Pregnancy After Loss x

We are pleased to share that our latest podcast is now live. The topic is about Subsequent Pregnancy After Loss, […]

Thrive For 5 launched!

We are really pleased to announce our new fitness-focused campaign – ‘Thrive For Five.’ This campaign directly encourages you to […]


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